01 April 09 - 01:184 Major Mistakes Men Make With Women...
Do you ever feel like you're playing a game with women, and you could be making mistakes, but you don't know for sure? Well, I always felt like there were things women weren't telling me. I used to get really frustrated when I thought they were "hiding" this from me. Well, in this newsletter, you'll find out the big 4 mistakes that a LOT of guys (including me) have made with our attitude and opinions of women...
QUESTION:
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Carlos? I'm getting better at approaching and using your material lately and brought home my first girl Saturday night since starting your program. Things went pretty well. We hooked up. In fact, I knew even before she met me that she wanted me... she couldn't take her eyes off me. Anyway, we made plans to meet up for lunch today, but when I IM'ed her she said she had to meet with her student adviser and wanted to reschedule. I just said sure, no problem. Then, she says she still wanted to call after her class got out and ...
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01 March 09 - 22:01Which comes first: Confidence or Techniques?
There's this ongoing debate over the use of 'strategies' or 'techniques' with women. One corner holds that to do anything INTENTIONAL (i.e. display higher value, neg-hit, C&F, whatever) means that you're just not doing it right. They feel you need to come from high self-esteem right off the starting blocks. To use techniques means that you're manipulating and coming from the wrong frame or belief system. But if the "natural" does these things (DHV, neg-hits, teasing, C&F) then it's okay, after all, he's just doing it naturally.
In the other corner is the belief that we must HAVE the techniques to learn. We gotta have all the cool openers, and cold reading skills, and cube games, and kino gambits. The more techniques we use, the more we can get the women we want. I'll fake it 'til I make it, the Eager Learner says.
But we also know that without that grounding of self-confidence and self-image, these techniques lose their effectiveness, their sizzle. ...
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17 December 08 - 06:41How To Ask A Girl For A Date
This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys...
Why?
It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection). The answer to the riddle is this:
STOP asking women out!
First of all, you're starting a program in a woman's head that says: "He's romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not."
Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she's attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU. You see, a woman doesn't want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there's romantic interest. So she'll say yes just to test ...
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