24 November 08 - 01:28How to Read Women's Body Language
One of the things that I am asked frequently is: How do I read a woman's body language? How can I tell if she's "into" me?
First of all, before I give you the inside detail on reading this area of physiology, I want to caution you that if you're spending a lot of time "reading" into a woman's appearance rather than creating the vibe of the interaction, you're probably focusing on the wrong areas. If a woman is interested in you, you should be able to figure this out by her overall interest in the conversation. If she is still there chatting with you, she's at least a little interested. Just don't get caught up in the trap of interpreting her more than you create the attraction proactively. Your role as an Alpha Man is to take control of the interaction and lead it where it needs to go.
Now, if you're in the conversation with a woman, but you're still a bit unclear about her interest level in you, or wondering if she's just be trying to be polite, here are some ...
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10 November 08 - 19:55Here's My Secret Dating Technique...
DATING TIPS QUESTION:
Carlos, I've
been reading your information for little while now, and I'm really excited
about getting this part of my life handled. I have a question that I'd like
to ask about the logistics of dating. I asked a girl I know out, and she
accepted. The problem was, I didn't have any clue where to take
her. Where should a guy take a girl out on a date?
- Nieman,
Ottawa Falls
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CARLOS XUMA
ANSWERS:
This is one of the questions I get quite frequently, and I
think it's because guys suspect on some level that taking a woman on
a traditional "date" is NOT actually the best way to create attraction with
a woman. Look, the reality is that guys have been sold a bogus product
when it comes to the whole "buy her flowers and dinner" crap. This method
just DOES ...
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09 November 08 - 22:11How to Motivate Yourself...
I hope you'll bear with me, because this is one of the most intense and
exhausting posts I'll write in some time. It's message is extremely important.
I got this email the other day, and I thought
it warranted some attention and observation, because I think it indicates one
of - if not THE most challenging obstacles to a man's growth with
women. Please read his letter first, and then I'll comment:
Hey
Carlos,
I have been beating myself
up over a situation recently at work. Well, I have been working with this
girl from my job for about 3 months now, and I have been busting her balls
consistently and not taking any of her shit. She has been interested in me
for the longest time, and has showed the most interest the past
several days than any other time before. (I have heard from friends
that she wishes I would ask her out and she is in love with me and all
that). ...
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05 November 08 - 19:01How To Handle Your Alpha Lifestyle
This week's blog-post covers a question about the
Alpha Lifestyle....
QUESTION:
I've noticed recently that my cocky and funny and confidence from reading your stuff has given me a good amount of popularity among people in my college. Not just with girls, but male friends as well. Within the past few months I have got A LOT of new friends added to my phone and people often rely on me to plan and organize social events and little group gatherings.
The problem is, there are so many people who want to hang out with me its hard for me to find time for them or plan things with any of the few groups I hang out with. I know this question doesn't have a lot to do with dating. But more towards the social life of an Alpha man. How do I keep track of all these people? ...
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02 November 08 - 16:473 Steps to Getting Started Meeting Women
Have you ever felt like the goal of finding a woman to have as your girlfriend is so far out of your reach that you don't know WHAT to do next? I've felt that way. There was a time when I was so frustrated about finding someone that I felt like I was totally paralyzed. Well, I've got a real treat for you in this blog post; I'm going to give you my easy 3 step plan to figure out how the heck to get started.
QUESTION FROM A READER:
Carlos,
First of all, I'd like to express my gratitude to you and all the work you've put out there for other people. I purchased the
Dating Black Book at the end of last summer, and ordered your
Social Dynamics CDs not too long ago. Both have helped to make me a smarter, less high strung, ...
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26 October 08 - 20:12How To Improve Your Dating Skills Dramatically
Very few guys wonder how I got all this information on women and dating. They just want the strategies and an understanding of how it all actually works. Actually, mostly WOMEN wonder how I got all this inside information on how they work. When they discover what I do as an adviser, the first question they ask is, "How did you learn all this?" My first answer is: "YEARS of pain and suffering!"
I don't say that this pain and suffering was created by women, because it really wasn't. I created it myself by interacting with women without having a clue about what was going on. Most guys do this same thing, creating more pain for themselves than they need to. It's as if you walked onto a field to play with 250 lb professional athletes in a game that you know NOTHING about. You don't know the rules of the game or how the score is kept or ANYTHING. Most people would call you insane for going out there to play without at least having a basic understanding. And yet this is what guys all over ...
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25 October 08 - 21:335 Things to NEVER Talk to a Woman About
A lot of guys agonize on what to talk to women about. You may also have questions like, "What subjects are interesting?"; "What do I say after I introduce myself?" etc..
The truth is, it doesn't matter WHAT you talk to her about, as long as you use the right tone and posture. But the reality is that when you're just getting the hang of it, you want to say the right things to get her interested. You can take more risks later on, but for now you want to use the best topics. Here's what I can tell you, though; There are subjects you really need to avoid talking to women about.
It's really pretty common sense, but sometimes when a guy's mouth gets going, he starts to forget that he's talking to a woman, and he starts to go into forbidden territory with his conversation. Let's cover a few of the things to avoid in your conversation, whether it's a first meeting or an umpteenth date.
1) Do not talk about Star Trek, Star Wars, comic books, computer games, ...
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