17 December 08 - 07:41How To Ask A Girl For A Date
This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys...
Why?
It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection). The answer to the riddle is this:
STOP asking women out!
First of all, you're starting a program in a woman's head that says: "He's romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not."
Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she's attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU. You see, a woman doesn't want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there's romantic interest. So she'll say yes just to test ... (more)
06 December 08 - 23:46What do you do when the check arrives?
Question from a reader
Hey Carlos,
Thanks for your great emails and content. A woman friend of mine, who is married, was telling me that when women offer to pay their share for something, they are actually testing men to see how cheap we are. Now, I don't think in such a twisted manner, but what is the alpha way to respond to this kind of test?
Cheers,
Eddie
Carlos Xuma Answers
Well, Eddie, your friend is partly right, and partly wrong, as you figured out. I'm glad to hear that you're not buying into that kind of jaded thinking. SOME women do offer just to see if the guy is cheap, but that's not entirely accurate. Not every woman is so coldly calculating. The reality is this:It's a dance.
When the check comes, women have a lot of mixed feelings about how to handle it. Does she just assume you're going to pay for it? Or would that be rude? ... (more)
24 November 08 - 01:28How to Read Women's Body Language
One of the things that I am asked frequently is: How do I read a woman's body language? How can I tell if she's "into" me?
First of all, before I give you the inside detail on reading this area of physiology, I want to caution you that if you're spending a lot of time "reading" into a woman's appearance rather than creating the vibe of the interaction, you're probably focusing on the wrong areas. If a woman is interested in you, you should be able to figure this out by her overall interest in the conversation. If she is still there chatting with you, she's at least a little interested. Just don't get caught up in the trap of interpreting her more than you create the attraction proactively. Your role as an Alpha Man is to take control of the interaction and lead it where it needs to go.
Now, if you're in the conversation with a woman, but you're still a bit unclear about her interest level in you, or wondering if she's just be trying to be polite, here are some ...
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