01 April 09 - 01:184 Major Mistakes Men Make With Women...
Do you ever feel like you're playing a game with women, and you could be making mistakes, but you don't know for sure? Well, I always felt like there were things women weren't telling me. I used to get really frustrated when I thought they were "hiding" this from me. Well, in this newsletter, you'll find out the big 4 mistakes that a LOT of guys (including me) have made with our attitude and opinions of women...
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Carlos? I'm getting better at approaching and using your material lately and brought home my first girl Saturday night since starting your program. Things went pretty well. We hooked up. In fact, I knew even before she met me that she wanted me... she couldn't take her eyes off me. Anyway, we made plans to meet up for lunch today, but when I IM'ed her she said she had to meet with her student adviser and wanted to reschedule. I just said sure, no problem. Then, she says she still wanted to call after her class got out and ...
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01 March 09 - 22:01Which comes first: Confidence or Techniques?
There's this ongoing debate over the use of 'strategies' or 'techniques' with women. One corner holds that to do anything INTENTIONAL (i.e. display higher value, neg-hit, C&F, whatever) means that you're just not doing it right. They feel you need to come from high self-esteem right off the starting blocks. To use techniques means that you're manipulating and coming from the wrong frame or belief system. But if the "natural" does these things (DHV, neg-hits, teasing, C&F) then it's okay, after all, he's just doing it naturally.
In the other corner is the belief that we must HAVE the techniques to learn. We gotta have all the cool openers, and cold reading skills, and cube games, and kino gambits. The more techniques we use, the more we can get the women we want. I'll fake it 'til I make it, the Eager Learner says.
But we also know that without that grounding of self-confidence and self-image, these techniques lose their effectiveness, their sizzle. ...
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