Can women really sense if a man is desperate?
Have you ever had someone tell you to just "BE" a certain way? Maybe they said to just "be" happy. Or maybe they told you to not "BE" so serious. I always found that kind of advice annoying because I was already stuck in that state. Don't they think I would BE another way if I
could? It's like telling me to NOT be such a thinker. I'm hard wired that way.
But when it comes to being "hungry" or desperate with women, you have to understand that you're not hard-wired with this. It's not your identity. And you do have a path to NOT being this way if you want to change it.
Here's a question that I got recently from a reader;
QUESTION:
I totally believe in the concepts and basic principles you have put forth but it boils down to this: Yes, things come to the people who don't expect them or need them but in order to give of that vibe you truly must be in that "zone" truthfully. I have not dated or gotten laid in the past seven years, I am being mindful when I approach women and get numbers to be cool laid back, relaxed, in control like any alpha man would. But.... the problem is as we all know women have built in radars that can detect things in men.
For example: Guys who are in relationships get hit on by women more than guys who are single for some reason. So how can I be in the zone of not being hungry when I truly am starving? My approach doesn't come as needy but there must be a "X" factor or something that maybe women are sensing?
Because I call them once and never hear from them again, not even a first date at all but, at the time them are giving me the initial indicators of interest and attraction. How do you control your hunger when in reality who haven't had a girlfriend or gotten laid in over seven years - or ever? Yes, neediness drives women away, but how do you mask it or control it and appear not hungry when in reality you are truly truly famished?
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
This is a great question, because it speaks to the heart of what I teach. First of all, remember that the problem isn't that you haven't gotten laid in seven years. That's a SYMPTOM, not the actual disease. Mistaking it for the real problem is what distracts most guys.
The secret to getting rid of this hunger is really to NOT pretend that you’re not hungry. We all know that’s impossible. Women DO sense this and they DO avoid men with that rabid scent of "gotta get laid" just as much as men avoid the women with that rabid scent of "gotta get married."
If you’re starving for sex, you’re not really looking at the big picture. You’ve just become a slave to your own genitals. You can “feed” this hunger by using your sex drive to push you into new experiences in life, such as widening your social circle, trying a new way to meet women (such as the “multiple streams of female income” that I teach men how to leverage in my programs.)
Saying that you can only get fulfillment by getting a woman in your life is narrow-focused and short-sighted. If you find the things in life that REALLY fulfill you, women will realize that your hunger is not going to consume THEM. Which is why women avoid these men.
A man's sex drive is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Channeling that drive into other areas of your life will absolutely help you get rid of that "hungry" and desperate vibe. If you’re a Hungry Guy - and we all have been at some point - the answer is NOT in chasing after women as the only path to your satisfaction. The answer is completing your life so that when you’re with a woman, there could be a dozen just-as-cool things you could be doing at that moment. And I can guarantee you that the women will want to come along for that ride...
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