Don't you?

It sucks, because you waste time taking that bad advice, using it, and not getting any better. And then you need to RE-learn the GOOD advice that will get you what you want. It's really frustrating. You even start to ignore people's advice after a while because you don't know who to trust after that.

One bit of advice I always heard from my first guitar teacher (and my first martial arts teacher, and really every teacher I ever met) was this:

"It takes a lot of practice to get good at something, and you have
to study for hours and hours to get good enough to DO something."

After all, "practice makes perfect."

But I'm here to tell you that's not true at all. I've only had one guitar teacher in my life, and he had me practicing scales and theory for weeks. I got rid of him and taught myself over a couple years and got better than any of my friends who were taking "lessons." Now, these teachers mean well, but they are actually making it harder for people to learn because they expect all this massive self-discipline up front for almost no payback in the early stages. Practice does NOT make perfect. If it was up to my first teachers, I would have spent a couple years PRACTICING before I ever got out there and started DOING. And this is the WORST way to learn.

In fact, if you spend too much time "practicing" and trying to get ready to do it, you actually create a lot of fear and anxiety, and you usually get frustrated and quit.

 

Here's the big secret to success that most people will never tell you. It's so important that I want you to write it down somewhere and put it on your bathroom mirror so you can read it every day. It applies to anything you want to learn, but especially with dating and women. The most important step to getting good with women is FAST SUCCESS. Because fast success is lasting success.

When I taught kids guitar, the first thing I made sure someone could do was play a simple SONG as soon as possible, (usually with power chords, because they're easy to do). And I saw them smile as they learned "Smoke on the Water" or "Iron Man" in just a few minutes. That hit of success juice is what keeps you in the game so you learn more. Your brain thinks "Hey, this ain't so hard..." and you keep trying. All because you laid the best foundation: An experience of FAST SUCCESS that programmed your brain to have fun. And keep coming back for more.

Similiarly, you MUST get a quick hit of success with women early in learning dating and attraction skills, or you run the risk of quitting too soon, or creating performance (AKA "Approach") anxiety. And yet there are still "gurus" out there that want you to learn every possible line, opener, story, routine, and close before you ever go out in the field and start using this stuff. (These people are sometimes called "keyboard jockeys" because they know their stuff, but they never actually go out and talk to women to use it).

I want you to save yourself from that, as well as give you the right foundation you need to improve your skills as far as you want to go. And not get stuck in fear or anxiety of your own ability. If you're serious about turning your dating life up to its full potential, and probably tripling or quadrupling the number of women you have in your life right now, then you owe it to yourself to make a firm decision and take an initiative.