How To Talk To Women
Have you heard of Sun Tzu? He was one of the most famous military strategists of all time. His book "The Art of War" has been used in every conceivable field of education - and I've been using it for years to teach guys the basics of how to approach women and how to talk to women more effectively.
Sun Tzu was also probably the world's best pickup artist.
No joke!
Think about it for a minute...The guy was an incomparable military strategist, and arguably the wisest battle technician of all time. Legend has it that the King of Wu tested Sun Tzu's skills by commanding him to train a harem of 360 concubines into soldiers. No small task for Sun Tzu, as you can imagine. These women were basically herded into quick military service just for him to provide a demonstration of his knowledge and battle expertise. And he passed with flying colors. So what does this have to do with you - and dating - and talking to women?
Well, the same laws and rules that apply to military conflict also apply to approaching women. Here are Sun Tzu's 3 essential Laws of Seduction Strategy for you to use in your own life. More importantly, these three laws will help you with how to talk to women.
SUN TZU'S 3 STRATEGIES FOR HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN
STRATEGY 1: KNOW and use your STRATEGY. But don't PLAN.
We make a lot of plans in our lifetime. Why do we go through all the effort to plan? We plan in order to remove risk. The logic is that the more you prepare for something, the more likely it is that you'll be ready when the unexpected comes along. There's a problem with this, though. I'll sum it up with a famous saying that you may have heard before:
"No plan survives first contact with the enemy."
And nowhere is this more true than in learning how to approach and how to talk to women. The difference between a plan and a strategy is simply this:
Plans are rigid. Fixed.
Strategies are fluid. Flexible.
You can't afford to plan too much. What you need is a STRATEGY that works for you, and will not lock you into one path with no options. Now, I know that the terminology might seem a bit confusing, so let me give you a very specific example...
Planning for how to talk to women.
Have you ever had a conversation with a woman that you had rehearsed in your head, and maybe even thought of some clever things to say? And then you get in front of her and it goes completely haywire? You lose control, and then you panic. The problem wasn't memorizing a few things to say. It was when you locked yourself into having to say it a certain way, and in a certain order. And when she interrupted, or didn't respond the right way, you were all thrown off. Why? Because your strategy should have been to just talk about certain subjects as a way to connect with her. (Like your love of dogs, for instance.) It was when you had to say your little script that it got to be too rigid, and you lost your connection.
Plans are rigid.
Strategies are flexible.STRATEGY 2: SEE the Battlefield.
This is one of those gems that I didn't understand the first time I heard it. It wasn't until later that I realized that it was the most important dating tip I'd heard in years. A great military leader once stood in front of a group of cadets and asked them what they thought was THE most important key to military success. They came up with a ton of brilliant answers, but in the end he silenced them all and just said those three words.
"SEE the battlefield."
What he meant was, when you can really SEE what the terrain is you're dealing with, when you can see the enemy and their use of the battlefield, and you can grasp what you have to work with, you will have a truly POWERFUL military awareness that will lead to victory. For you as a dating "General", you must have an awareness of the dating terrain you're dealing with. You need to know your "enemy" - which is NOT women. Your true enemy in this arena is YOURSELF!
Most of the problems guys have with women have NOTHING to do with women at all. Their true challenge is in managing their own self-control, knowing how to handle conversation, and simply NOT doing the things that turn women off. Success in learning how to talk to women is actually more about NOT making mistakes, like bragging, talking about other women in your life, and asking the wrong questions. It really is that simple... but it may not seem all that easy.
STRATEGY 3: Know when NOT to fight.
Sun Tzu once said:
"To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting."
In other words, you don't have
to "dominate" or "triumph" to
win in the game of dating and seduction. All you need
to do is simply know how to handle a woman's energy and
guide it to the goal you both want. In martial arts, I teach guys how to block first, because
that's the simplest way to avoid getting hit. (Besides
avoiding being attacked in the first place). But blocking is very unsophisticated technique. Far
better is to redirect (i.e., steer) your opponent's energy
away from you. Knowing when and how to NOT take action with women -
when NOT to talk, when NOT to respond to her - is the
pinnacle of being the Alpha Male with women.
Guys tend to get caught up feeling like they must respond to a woman when she asks a question of him. Very often you communicate more masculine power when you choose NOT to respond or react to her. By doing this, you show her that you do NOT need her approval. A woman's resistance to you will melt when she feels that you are not trying to GET something from her, and you can show her a fun time. Risk free. The best part of attracting women with my REAL Game™ is that you don't have to FORCE a woman or TRICK a woman to get her interested in you. This is the real key to "natural" game.
If you've ever wanted to learn more
about how conversation works, and how to persuade women
to let down their defenses and let you in - you
can learn more about how to increase your confidence
with women just by going here right now:
How To Start A Conversation & Keep A Conversation Going
Wishing you confidence and success with women - With HONOR and integrity.No comments:
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