Q & A: When a woman goes cold on you, what do you do?
READER QUESTION:Carlos....man, do I have a good one for you. I have been using your Alpha Man Persuasion and conversation, for a little over a week now, and it has almost rectified a sour situation. I live in Chile, South America. I have lived here for about a month and a half. I have been dating this GORGEOUS 23 year old. Yes, I know red flag because she's still a little young and doesn't quite know what she wants yet. Also she has only been in one other relationship before me, for like 5 years, and it ended like 3 months ago.
Everything was going fantastic until a week ago. She broke down crying and said she had many problems "with her heart" (in spanish of course) from the previous relationship. It was quite the bummer.
Now since then, we have gone from that to slowing down, to full on dating again, yet she is still hesistant to have the type of close relationship we almost had. I don't understand this. The tension is so strong some times you could cut it with a knife. I have tons of rapport, I can make her laugh always, I'm definitely an Alpha Man, and I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to help win her emotions over, finally and fully.
I have been talking to and dating other women, so I haven't put all my eggs in one basket with this one. But what should I do?
- Rob P., South America
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
I really like getting questions like this from around the globe, because it only points out just how consistent women are in behavior, no matter what country. And it's nice to know that the Alpha Conversation Program can cross language barriers, too!
Now, for your problem, let me tell you a story you'll understand...
A few years back, I bought a very expensive plasma screen television. I'm not going to advertise how much I spent, but it was more than some people pay for their cars. (I'm a movie nut, and I like a big screen for my home theater). It was a BIG investment for me.
Well, I did a lot of research, and then I ordered it online. I still remember the feeling of clicking on the "Buy Now" button, crossing my fingers, and imagining that fantastic picture. Well, about an hour after the transaction went through, I felt this panic overtake me...
"Did I do the right thing?"
"Oh, man... I shouldn't have done that..."
"Can I afford this?"
"I should cancel the order..."
This is commonly referred to as "buyer's remorse."
One of the most common reactions a person will feel after making a big purchase is the "oh, crap... I shouldn't have done that" feeling. After the impulse to buy has been satisfied, the emotional hole leaves all kinds of room for regret to sneak in and take you over.
She's wondering:
"Did I do the right thing?"
"Hmmm... I shouldn't have done
that..."
"I should break it off now..."
"Am I a slut?"
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